Expert analysis： Do they need a ＂divorce cooling-off period＂ in the movie？

Special feature of 1905 film network　On January 1st next year, the newly published Civil Code of People’s Republic of China (PRC) will be officially implemented. This also means that the "cooling-off period of divorce" which has caused heated discussion before will have legal effect in the form of express clauses in the Civil Code.

Excerpts from the Civil Code of People’s Republic of China (PRC)

Article 1077 If either party is unwilling to divorce within 30 days from the date when the marriage registration office receives the application for divorce registration, it may withdraw the application for divorce registration from the marriage registration office.

Within 30 days after the expiration of the time limit specified in the preceding paragraph, both parties shall personally apply to the marriage registration office for a divorce certificate; Those who fail to apply shall be deemed to have withdrawn their application for divorce registration.

Since the proposal stage, this "renewal period" attached to divorce has set off a discussion upsurge among netizens."It’s not’ free’ to want a divorce?" "Divorce should be calm, it is better to be calm before marriage" … … Many viewpoints collide fiercely, and the "divorce cooling-off period" has become the "divorce frying pan period".

However, Su Qin, an emotional expert who is a guest of Today’s Film Review, has a more comprehensive and long-term view on this "divorce cooling-off period" that seems to be contradicted by the whole network."Each of us has a completely different mentality when facing marriage." From the unfortunate family emotional relationship she witnessed, she saw not only the absolutely irreparable rupture, but also the regret caused by the lack of marriage education. In real life, it is often the film and television work … …

Forget about your trip.

Let the impulsive bullets fly for a while

Let everyone remember "What Mei Ma" and "Pruning Mei", but the original intention is to discuss how love is "not".When the relationship between husband and wife with Ma Dongmei is tense, a middle-aged down-and-out man, Charlotte, opens a "door" and begins a "crossing" journey back to the past … …Wow, isn’t this the immersive experience of "divorce cooling-off period"

In the "dream", Charlotte braved the wind and waves all the way with the knowledge of the "future", not only became a pop superstar, but also married Qiu Ya, the "goddess" that she couldn’t touch when she was a student.Ma Dongmei, who still exists, is just an ordinary "strong fan" who silently infatuates with and guards him.

The only warmth that Charlotte felt before the tragic end of her virtual life was a bowl of fennel noodles with gravy made by Ma Dongmei.The so-called empty dream of making up for "regret when I was young" finally made Charlotte, who had lost her way, return to her original heart of falling in love with Dongmei. Of course, this circuitous expression of "regret" also has a realistic refraction in Su Qin’s daily work. "In the case of remarriage, the initiative to propose is that men are mostly."

Under Su Qin’s interpretation, Charlotte’s transformation or self-help of marriage is the contribution of "divorce cooling-off period" subconscious review. Of course, in her view, goodbye mr. loser still has the defect of unilateralism — — Throughout the discussion of marriage relationship, it is centered on the man Charlotte, while the woman Ma Dongmei is only a supporting role that endures from beginning to end.

"If Ma Dongmei can also have a review or reflection, I think it may be more perfect." It is not uncommon for women to work hard but not complain. Their grievances and impulses in marriage life are also worthy of in-depth discussion.

In a sense, "the cooling-off period of divorce" is often a buffer for "passionate divorce". In Su Qin’s experience, passionate divorce often happens between young couples who are not married long. "They are actually led by emotions, not emotions. After leaving in the morning, they go back on their word in the afternoon."

Wu Xiaojiang and Li Nan, a young couple played by Qiao Shan and Huo Siyan, are on the verge of breaking up their marriage because of a phone call game.

In fact, the "game" itself is just an introduction, and the lack of daily communication with each other is the absolute factor that triggers the divorce impulse; And this kind of "mistake" deserves a chance to "make up" for those who really love each other.

In modern society, gaining and losing are sometimes too easy, so that lovers may talk about "breakup" and "divorce" by the way. This kind of "true temperament" may not be fair to two people who still have enough emotional foundation. Impulsive "bullets" might as well fly for a while in the "cooling-off period of divorce".

Shake your hair and walk away.

No difference between hot and cold, zero tolerance for violence

As for marriage, many China audiences have had "fear" since childhood, mainly from the gentle at home and the tyrannical Anjiahe at home in the TV series Don’t Talk to Strangers.

What makes many netizens uneasy about the "cooling-off period of divorce" is also related to violence: do victims of domestic violence have to endure another month’s injury?

The most direct sustaining factor of marriage is still emotion. The "divorce cooling-off period", which is also based on emotional considerations, will naturally not be absolutely framed.

Excerpts from the Civil Code of People’s Republic of China (PRC)

Article 1079 If a spouse requests a divorce, the relevant organization may mediate or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people’s court.

When trying divorce cases, the people’s court shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, divorce shall be granted.

In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, divorce shall be granted:

(1) Bigamy or cohabitation with others;

(2) committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

(three) gambling, drug abuse and other bad habits;

(four) separated for two years due to emotional disharmony;

(five) other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of marital relationship.

If one party is declared missing and the other party files a divorce lawsuit, the divorce shall be granted.

After the people’s court has ruled that divorce is not allowed, and the two parties have separated for one year, if one party files a divorce lawsuit again, divorce shall be granted.

The behavior of "domestic violence" explicitly pointed out in situation (2) obviously does not exist in the mediation scope of "cooling-off period". However, Su Qin reminded the relieved friends in time: the damage caused by "cold" violence is no less than that caused by externally publicized violence.

Let’s turn our attention back to the movie "The Phone Rings". Among them, Tian Yu and Lele Dai, the middle-aged Kochi couple, loved each other before and presented a model family appearance, but when they got home, they didn’t even say a word to each other.

"This is a typical cold violence." According to Su Qin’s observation, the mode of no-hands-on, polite and peaceful communication is the reality of many families in China. The phrase "for the children" seems to be that the marriage is only maintained to give the children a stable illusion.

In fact, it is these subtle changes in the family atmosphere that children in the growth period are best at capturing and most susceptible. In the movie, Wu Wenxue and Zhang Yan, who were not "taken away" by the light because of the disappearance of their love, had already been discovered by the daughter played by Vicky Chen.

Until the end of the film, the couple, played by Bo Huang and Tan Zhuo, are still "tender". Their daughter, however, has already won the love around her through retaliatory puppy love."These parents are selfish," Su Qin bluntly said. This kind of struggling "living together" will bring huge psychological burden to the children. "In this case, I will say to the children: Son, this matter really has nothing to do with you, but your parents haven’t grown up yet."

Perhaps we still remember the scene at the end of the movie where Scarlett Johansson plays the role of tying the shoelaces of her ex-husband. With the emotional ties that naturally lead to the formation of family memories, they have also experienced the psychological mediation process of "divorce cooling-off period", but the verbal and mental torture and harm to each other before are still irresistible.

Get together sometimes. Any form of violence deserves a zero-tolerance decision to walk away.In the face of the "cooling-off period of divorce", many people focus on the "period" of 30 days, ignoring the "cooling-off" that should really be the necessary support in emotional relationships — — The choice between dispelling impulse or being firm and discrete should be calm enough.

Movies bearing joys and sorrows may give you support and answers.